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Women’s Outreach Program

 

It is the primary purpose of the Nez Perce Tribe Women’s Outreach Program to provide services to victims of:

  • intimate partner violence
  • dating violence
  • sexual assault
  • stalking and;
  • Elder Abuse by

                      o 1) improving services available to American Indian victims on or near the Nez Perce Indian Reservation;
                          o 2) working with the community to create education and prevention campaigns; and
                          o 3) provide transitional housing assistance.

Department Manager Jackie McArthur
Department Director Karee Picard
Later in Life Coordinator Antoinette Picard
   
Staffing Fawn Domebo, Full Time Later in Life Advocate
  Tawaiya Andrew, Reception of Resources
  Cara Wilson, Advocate
   
Contact Information Later in Life Advocate:
Fawn @ (208) 621-4690           fawnd@nezperce.org
  Women's Outreach Advocate:
  Cara @ (208) 621-4797           caraw@nezperce.org
Reception of Resources:
Tawiya @ (208) 621-4778         tawiyaa@nezperce.org
Women's Outreach Director:
  Karee @ (208) 621-4658          kareep@nezperce.org
  Later In LIfe Coordinator:
  Antoinette @ (208) 621-4777    antoinettep@nezperce.org
  Social Services Manager:
Jackie @ (208) 621-4655          jackiem@nezperce.org
   
Location: Warm Fires Resource Center
101 Agency Road  (Mailing address: PO Box 365)
  Lapwai, ID 83540
24 Hour Number 1-855-803-4685
Hours of Operation Office Hours: Monday-Friday: 8am-4:30pm

FOR MORE INFORMATION

Nez Perce Tribe Women's Outreach Program 208 621 4690
FOR EMERGENCY SERVICES DIAL 911
YWCA of Lewiston and Clarkston 1-800-669-3176
Call the Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE
This nationwide, toll-free hotline provides immediate crisis intervention, counseling, and referrals to emergency shelters and services. ...
National Resource Center on Domestic Violence 1-800-537-2238

 

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

Support Groups in our area: ywca of Lewiston, ID - support groups 
Victims of Crime: http://ywcaidaho.org/?programs___victims_of_crime
Devising a Safety Plan: http://www.ywcaspokane.org/site/c.duIXJdNTKkL4G/b.8681513/k.8E24/Safety_Planning.htm 

WHAT IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Domestic violence also known as Intimate Partner Violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone.

Physical Abuse: Hitting, slapping, shoving, grabbing, pinching, biting, hair pulling, etc are types of physical abuse. This type of abuse also includes denying a partner medical care or forcing alcohol and/or drug use upon him or her. Sexual Abuse: Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact or behavior without consent. Sexual abuse includes, but is certainly not limited to, marital rape, attacks on sexual parts of the body, forcing sex after physical violence has occurred, or treating one in a sexually demeaning manner.

Emotional Abuse: Undermining an individual's sense of self-worth and/or self-esteem is abusive. This may include, but is not limited to constant criticism, diminishing one's abilities, name-calling, or damaging one's relationship with his or her children.

Economic Abuse: Is defined as making or attempting to make an individual financially dependent by maintaining total control over financial resources, withholding one's access to money, or forbidding one's attendance at school or employment.

Psychological Abuse: Elements of psychological abuse include - but are not limited to - causing fear by intimidation; threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner's family or friends; destruction of pets and property; and forcing isolation from family, friends, or school and/or work. Sources: National Domestic Violence Hotline, National Center for Victims of Crime, and WomensLaw.org.

HAVE YOU HURT SOMEONE IN YOUR FAMILY? NMPH Domestic Violence Treatment helps men stop battering and explore the consequences of the violence for themselves, their partner and their children. These interventions are known as "the Duluth Model" and have been recognized nationally and internationally as the leading tool for helping communities eliminate violence in the lives of women and children.

  • Accept the fact that your violent behavior will destroy your family. Be aware that you break the law when you physically hurt someone.
  • Take responsibility for your actions and get some help
  • When you feel tension building, get away from the situation. Work off the negative energy with a walk, a project, a sport
  • Call a domestic violence hotline and ask about counseling and support groups for people who batter. (NiMiiPuu Health Domestic Violence Treatment can assist through Behavior Health at 208 843 2271: Donna Henry, receptionist.);

DON'T IGNORE THE PROBLEM
Talk to someone. Part of the abuser's power comes from secrecy. Victims are ashamed to let anyone know about intimate family problems. Go to a friend or neighbor, or call a domestic violence hotline to talk to a counselor. Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. Domestic violence occurs in both opposite-sex and same-sex relationships and can happen to intimate partners who are married, living together, or dating.

VICTIM BLAMING
As a bystander or community member, do not blame the victim, but recognize that our loved one or friend may be committing a crime. Domestic violence not only affects those who are abused, but also has a substantial effect on family members, friends, co-workers, other witnesses, and the community at large. Children, who grow up witnessing domestic violence, are among those seriously affected by this crime. Frequent exposure to violence in the home not only predisposes children to numerous social and physical problems, but also teaches them that violence is a normal way of life - therefore, increasing their risk of becoming society's next generation of victims and abusers.

COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS

There are also a number of misconceptions about domestic violence which aid in society’s denial of the problem. Most of these focus on blaming women for the violence instead of addressing the issue of why men abuse their partners. Some of the most common misconceptions include:

Myth: A woman, through her actions or behaviors, provokes the violence.

Fact: The use of violence has little to do with the woman’s behavior and everything to do with her partner’s need to control others, his choice to use physical force, his own attitudes and expectations about male/female roles, and the lack of negative consequences he experiences from his use of violence. If you are being abused, you have probably been told, at one time or another, you do things which “cause” him to be violent. Remember, regardless of your behavior, it is your partner’s choice and decision to use violence. Blaming you for his actions is just one of the ways he will deny responsibility for the abuse.
“...he beat me because dinner wasn’t ready when he came home, so I made sure it was on the table when he came through the door. He threw the food on the floor and beat me anyway.”

-P.M., 39, survivor

Myth: Women who stay in abusive relationships are asking to be beaten, and therefore must “enjoy the abuse.”

Fact: This myth is especially insulting to someone who is being abused. No one wants to be beaten and, in fact, many women do leave. The Reasons a woman may remain in an abusive relationship are varied and complex. It may be out of economic necessity, she may hope the abuse will end, or she may have religious beliefs or traditional values about marriage and parenthood which make it difficult for her to leave. Most women are also threatened with severe harm to themselves or their children if they attempt to leave. These fears are often real. “...Just seeing those lights coming down the driveway made me wonder what would happen and the fear would start.”

-A.J., 35, survivor

Myth: Domestic violence is caused by external factors or events, such as job stress, financial problems and alcohol/drug use.

Fact: The truth is while some or all of these factors may be present in an abusive relationship, none, separately or together, are the cause of your partner’s violence. However, they are often used as convenient excuses for the abuse. It is important to know eliminating alcohol/drug use or minimizing the amount of stress in your relationship or in his environment will rarely stop the abuse.

Myth: Batterers are “out of control” and/or just have a problem expressing anger.

Fact: Abusers often report they “just have a bad temper” and temporarily “lost control” during the assault. In reality, however, most abusers control their use of violence quite well. They are usually NOT violent towards you in the presence of others, nor are they abusive to their boss, their friends, or their neighbors. They only use violence against their partners or their children in the privacy of their own home. They choose the time, place and people they will abuse. Remember, violence is a learned behavior your partner uses to control and dominate you and to get a variety of his needs met. This is not being out of control. Rather, it is exerting control. “...he made me lay on the floor on a mat for hours. I stayed there without moving, thinking that he wouldn’t get angry if I just pretended I was sleeping.” -E.V., 78, survivor

Myth: Abuse does not affect the children in the family. Usually, they do not even know it is happening.

Fact: Abuse can have a devastating impact on children, even at a very early age. Children witnessing violence usually have a very accurate perception of what is happening. Witnessing abuse is certainly emotional child abuse — causing fear, hostility, loss of trust and a tendency towards learned violence. Many children develop learning and behavioral problems which deepen as they grow older. If you have believed your children need their father, or that your abusive partner is actually a good parent, you should consider the effects the violence is having on them.

“...The counselor tells me Ron couldn’t possibly remember the beatings because he was too young (only 2 or 3), but he does. He asked me why B’s children didn’t live with their daddy and I told him because he was mean to B. He said You mean like my daddy was mean? And I used to protect you, didn’t I Mommy?” And he did. He used to step between us when my ex-husband was about to hit me and yell, “Don’t you hit my mommy!”                                                                                                                                                                      

-B.A., 26, survivor

There are certainly other myths which perpetuate violence against women by minimizing the seriousness of the situation and focusing on the woman’s behavior instead of the abuser’s choice to use violence. If you have believed in these myths, you have probably been torn between your need for safety and the desire to preserve your relationship. These myths may have also reinforced a belief that you are somehow responsible for your partner’s behavior. Keep in mind an abuser will encourage a belief in these myths so the responsibility for the abuse will not be placed with him.
“...I was college-educated and had pretty good self-esteem, but he was so subtle and so smart in undermining my confidence in myself. It took me a long time to realize what was happening.”                                                                              

-D.J.-D.J., 43, survivor

FOR MORE INFORMATION
Contact Nez Perce Tribe Women’s Outreach Program
208 621 4778
FOR EMERGENCY SERVICES DIAL
911
YWCA of Lewiston and Clarkston
of Lewiston and Clarkston
208 621 4778
Call the Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE
This nationwide, toll-free hotline provides immediate crisis intervention, counseling, and
referrals to emergency shelters and services.
National Resource Center on Domestic Violence 800-537-2238

Services are strictly confidential per the Violence Against Women Act Information will absolutely not be released without written consent

Our records follow a number system, names are not included on documents routed for assistance or advocacy

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